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get along with my wife and children for months

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发表于 2018-6-22 13:53:53 | 显示全部楼层 |阅读模式
I just retired this year, and get along with my wife and children for months. She is a very good housekeeper. I used to be busy with her work, but she was always a big fan. After retirement, she was as accustomed as I used to be, and I could understand, but I went out to learn calligraphy, painting and singing occasionally. Every time I ride my bike, she always reminds me that I am a child, always afraid of falling and knocking.
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I knew she was good for me, and told her many times that I needed some personal space. I am not looking forward to my old age. I hope she has her hobbies, trust me and give me some freedom. What should I do?

The closest people have to keep their distance.
A: in fact, many families have this situation. Here's a story about porcupine heating. You'd better read it with your wife.

A group of porcupines, with sharp thorns, crowded together to warm themselves for the winter. They do not know how far away we should be. It was a little farther away from each other and could not borrow each other's heat; as soon as they were close, the sharp spines were tied to each other, and they began to alienate again. After many times of running in, the porcupine finally found a proper distance, that is to maintain the warmth of the group without damaging each other. Man and man are like porcupine heating. Distance is a kind of beauty, and it is also a kind of protection.

If you want to be emotionally long, you must not forget the simple truth that "people who are close to each other should also keep their distance". I believe your wife will feel something after reading this story.

What's more, Chinese people generally do not express their deep feelings, but use their anger to resist others' practices. For example, when your partner is doing something similar, you are disgusted with her and tell her not to do so. In fact, the next time you encounter a similar situation, you can say, "you just did..." I don't feel very trusting. I expect you can trust me. " In such a word, the effect is more than you are angry ten times.

It is also important for a couple to make each other feel loved. In the book "five languages of love", there are five languages of love: praise words, elaborate moments, body contact, service actions, gifts of love. When you feel that she is loved, she will become flexible, and her mind will not be so solidified.

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